So, it's September 15th and Greg and I are going on the most intense first date of our lives. Today's the day that we get to meet N. for the first time. However, unlike meeting K. which was a full-on blind date, we have had a chance to see N. in a photograph and yes, he is adorable.
So the initial stress of "is my baby going to be ugly?" is done. I mean come on, even you bio-parents go through this. And you at least have a rough idea of what your child will look like by smushing you and your partner's features together (results may vary). Being an adoptive parent adds another element of mystery.
But, that part is done with. We have a photograph and we have an address. So this afternoon we're off to meet N. at his current foster family's place. He's been there for the past year and from what we know, it's been a very loving experience for him. So this just adds to the knife twist in that we are now going to meet the people that we are going to take him away from. Oh, and did I mention that there will be at least 3 social workers watching at the same time? No pressure there, and sure to create the most natural environment for meeting your new child as possible.
Sigh.
From this meeting we then go on to 2 weeks of planned visits, nap times at our place, encounters with our pets and all leading up to a planned Sept 29th placement date with us. We've been reminded by the integration worker that the current plan is "tentative". So along with the pre-date jitters are all the "unknown" fears.
Oh yeah, did I mention that we're also bringing K. into the mix? He knows all about the new baby, which has quickly become "my baby". Even though N. is 2, it helps K. to see him as little so that he can take the big brother role. I just hope he's not too disappointed when he sees how tall N. is. Because as K. talks about "my little baby" he holds his thumb and index finger out and indicates a height of about 2 inches.
But the big brother role is one K. is ready to take on. He's already been schooling me on the rules of the house ("Daddy, don't talk with your mouth full" "Daddy, you left the light on" <I get that from Greg too> and so on). So being able to boss a little one around will keep him busy.
K. has also graduated to a big boy bedroom sheet set and we're passing on his "baby" stuff to the little one. We've also been instructed to set aside some of K.'s toys that he decides the baby can't play with. So far the theory of this works. And I think it's the theory that K. is excited about. We'll see what happens when month 4 sets in and K. realizes that "my baby" also shares Papa and Daddy.
But, the fun for you guys is that you'll be able to read all about it. I'm sure I'll find a way to write about it that will keep you entertained.
And on that note, T minus 3 hours to the uber-date.... to be continued!
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